After holding water in new China, mix before 21 centuries, marry requisite has “ old 4 ” and “ are new of 4 ” say. So called “ is old 4 ” , that is the content such as bicycle, sewing machine; And “ is new 4 ” , those who point to is the content such as television, freezer.
Nowadays, what is conjugal requisite? A lot of people think, a house. Look very reasonable, but actually very not easy. Should the otherwise that don't have a room marry? View our investigation please.
Love each other 4 years not enemy one flatlet?
“ has a thing now so irritated that I am no good, I and girlfriend interact 4 years, feeling is very good, I like her very much, she also loves me, we are hit together went all out 3 years, plan next year marriage. But, she says that she must buy a house she just can marry me, I do not have so much money, can give only in the home 200 thousand, paid a house already head pay, mortgage us to be returned even 2, 30 years. For this thing we made a noise N second, without the result, I also do not say to give the reason with too good what not to buy a house. She says, you ask now, a few girls are willing to marry without house and you! We are troubled by quickly now parted company, do not know how to do really. Brotherly sisters, is a building so main? does feeling of 4 years return be not a patch on it? I this how? ”
The network that a netizen is above leaves a message, who can help him? Everybody can help him, want to sent his house to go only. This view nature does not hold water, so, the trouble of this netizen nobody can be solved, unless cummer change one's views, raise the issue of the house no longer.
A house beats heroic Chinese. The affliction of this netizen, be by no means him one person is only, it is certain to have however representative. The Chinese has “ to get married of ” establishing line of business say, “ gets married ” and “ establish ” of course of study to be contacted together cheek by jowl, “ gets married ” is not easy, it is more difficult that “ establishs ” of course of study. Look in a lot of people, the base that “ establishs ” of course of study is to own a building, just house price is climbed increasingly nowadays tall, bought a room to become the heavy burden of a lot of families, plus conjugal other expenditure, more appear have too many problems to deal with. So, how many is there is that netizen faced with the anguish that does not have a room to suffer above figure?
Room marriage is occupied 4 into
According to reporter logarithm the investigation of 10 youths men and women shows, occupy 4 become people to think, marry or want to have a house: Not very big, even if be single boarding house,also go; Need not very new, want to be able to keep out wind and rain go only. Of course, the heavy burden that buys a house is none exceptional on the head that falls in the man, go up in this bit, male woman does not give the accord of expect.
Mr Lin that becomes a lawyer says, I myself am to disapprove of what marry first without the house. It is right so oneself, to the girlfriend irresponsible. You marry with her, no more than is to think she is happy. But if you still do not have a house, also should let her have a rough time together with you be put into trouble, let her still follow the Fang Nu that you become all one's life after marrying you? Can not afford skill room to be able to consider to buy secondhand room, having the fossa that belongs two people first is the most important. If capital flows to come nevertheless really, can first from close friends over there collect, also want “ collect ” to give a house to come anyhow. Moreover, if you did not have a house to marry, your pressure will be greater. You can blame yourself to cannot give wife happiness all the day, often blame oneself to have a true Home “ ” without ability, from time to time because of husband and wife of “ poor and lowly 100 things sad ” and sigh with emotion, why? Resolved the issue of the house first marry again, what can drop a lot of actuality less is vexed, the love that also can yield both sides is more stable. After all the person is very actual very of material, this also is not changed forever.
And the view of Miss Zhan that becomes a teacher is widely divergent however. Miss Zhan thinks, want two individual sincerity to love each other only, do not have a house to be able to marry completely first. The house is not marriage assure, if connect love nonexistent, what does that have to have to use again? If because the house marries,be, lack emotional base so, basis is not firm, marriage is very difficult also long. Although the house is important, but not be essential condition, marrying a talented person that oneself love is the most important, that is all one's life thing, it is the happiness of lifetime. A when the woman may be faced with realer problem is the age. If often because of the house miss love again and again, that will have a lot of regrets. Procrastinating, be faced with advanced age very quickly. This is not a favour to the girl. Carry will be carried, final whats are done not have. Accordingly, wanting the key that watch is this individual that you marry actor is not fine, the house that is not him how, after all a day that the house can not make you live.
Investigate discovery, age issue of the man also is an important and referenced element likewise, it is the “ that suffers a tradition probably 30 and the influence that establishs ” view, the man is regarded as ” of a “ watershed 30 years old, still do not have 30 years old to be forgiven more without the room, still be in poineering phase right now, buying a house is strong its place is bad; And more than 30 years old connect a “ to keep out wind and rain the place of ” is done not have, with respect to ” of cannot be justified or explained away of “ be thinkinged, ” of good-for-nothing of “ be regardinged as is handled. This invisible “ watershed ” , in “ the knot that do not have a room does not marry ” also is mirrorred on this problem come out, apparent, latter more be not accepted by the other side, and the addition as the age, conjugal difficulty also increases ceaselessly.
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